Saturday, November 17, 2012

Freedom of singleness

Today I'm exercising my "rights" as a single person. I woke up around 9:30am to a quiet house, and then went back to sleep for another hour. I went for a run leisurely then browsed the free movies on netflix for about 10 minutes. I drank my coffee at noon and am still considering my next move. It's a Saturday without plans and since I'm single (no husband, kids or pets) - I can do whatever I want. It's quite a liberating feeling in this season of life.


While many might read the description of my day and think - she's got it made, I have other thoughts. I have to intentionally remind myself of the joys of singleness. The freedoms it provides and opportunities it gives for spontaneity and acting carefree are here right now, in this moment. I need to embrace them and enjoy them. Soak them in. Today was one of those days it was easy to embrace my life stage. I'm grateful for that.

It's funny how I long for a season of life where I am forced to concede and share my days with others, as a wife and mother. Those roles are desires of my heart and yet it's giving up a lot! I am in a great season - one that teenagers crave when they have curfews and rules. But now that I've been at it for 10 years I vacillate between perfecting it and longing for it to end.

 So while I lean into my current life stage as a single woman, I pray I would soak in the quiet moments alone, the spontaneous moments with friends, the flexibility of plans and the ability to say yes or no without having to check with someone. I pray those future roles of wife and mother are one day mine, but until then - I will try to heed the words of Paul to the Corinthians

I want you to be free from the concerns of this life - an unmarried man can spend his time doing the Lord's work and thinking how to please him. But a married man has to think about his earthly responsibilities. His interests are divided. In the same way an unmarried woman can be devoted to the Lord and holy in body and spirit...I am saying this to you for your benefit, not to place restrictions on you. I want you to do whatever will help you serve the Lord best with as few distractions as possible. - 1 Cor. 7:32-35