One of the most meaningful discussions I heard about values came from the creator of the Life Values Inventory, Dr. Kelly Crace. He spoke at a conference I attended last year (and was an amazing speaker) and suggested the following:
At the end of each day, rather than considering your day in terms of what you accomplished, how effective you were or how many things you completed (which is never enough and always leaves you feeling inadequate) consider instead asking yourself the questions -
Did I live out of my values today?
What's one thing I can learn from today that will help me tomorrow?
What do I know I can do? (Know what your strengths are, which I'll address in another post)
What is the most right devotion of my time and energy tomorrow?
The idea is that you would consider your values, line them up with your behaviors and use your energy (which is finite in any given day) to facilitate living out your values, not necessarily focused on outcomes. Think - life is a journey not a destination.
"You gotta know yourself, to grow yourself"
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